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Personal Development
June 2006 - If Not You, Who Can You Trust?
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| One of the
best things I've done recently is develop a family chore chart.
This chart is posted prominently in our kitchen for everyone to
see. It has done wonders for keeping our family organized and
letting everyone know what is expected of them.
I used Microsoft
Word to develop the chart. The components include:
If you would
like a copy of the chart I created for our family, I'd be happy
to send you one. You can adapt the chart to fit your family
chore needs. Click here to send me an email.
Mark "Chore Chart" in the subject line. |
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| Have you ever
struggled to make a decision or enter into a commitment because
you didn’t trust your ability to make the right choice? How many
times have you gotten a feeling in the pit of your stomach that
something was not right? Did you pay attention to your intuition
or did you ignore it? Deep in our core, we know what is best
for us. So why don’t we trust that?
Some of
us were taught as a child that we can’t trust ourselves. Maybe
we weren’t able to trust our loved ones or our loved ones were
unable to trust us. Sometimes life experiences shatter our
trust in our self. Perhaps you can recall an event in which
you trusted yourself and the outcome was disastrous and painful.
The inability to trust our self can stem from not knowing who
we are and what’s important to us. Other times we know what is
right for us but we fail to honor that because of fear, external
pressure, or a belief that we are not worthy.
Sometimes
we do make decisions that don’t turn out as planned. I once
signed up for tap dance lessons because I was sure I was going
to love it. As a child, I had always wanted to learn tap dancing.
Within the first two lessons, I knew I didn’t like it. Learning
to tap dance was hard and boring. I did not have the desire I
thought I had. It is fun to watch, but tap dancing was not for
me.
When we
make decisions, there are times the red flags are there, and we
ignore them. All the warning signs were there before I married
my ex-husband. I can distinctly remember feeling extremely apprehensive
the morning of our wedding. I even called a girlfriend in tears
because of something he had said to me that morning. Despite the
negative character qualities, I went through with the marriage.
I convinced myself that it was the right choice for our little
boy, who was only one at the time. Within one year, we were separated.
Other times
we truly make the best decision we can. Ask any successful
entrepreneur, or any seasoned mom for that matter, about her process
of decision making. She will probably tell you she weighed all
the pros and cons and tried to anticipate any problems. She might
have looked to the experts for helpful insight. In the end, she
made the most informed decision she could. If you ask her if all
her decisions were the right ones, she will tell you no. Life
changes; people change. Just because something doesn’t work
out the way you wanted does not mean you cannot trust yourself
in the future.
Trusting yourself
is essential to loving yourself. You know yourself better than
anyone and no one is going to take care of you except you. Until
you trust yourself, you will not be able to fully trust anyone.
Let me give you an example. For a very long time, every morning
my husband would come downstairs before leaving for work and ask
me how his hair looked. I would tell him it looked fine. He would
go to work and other people would tell him his hair looked good.
However, other people or his wife could do nothing to convince
him that his hair was okay. He would even say to me, "I don't
know if I can believe people when they say my hair looks good."
He did not trust these people because he didn't trust himself.
He was not comfortable with his hair, so he assumed everyone else
felt the same way as him.
When you don’t
trust yourself, you will seek guidance from everyone else. Your
life will be outer-focused, and people will make decisions about
your life for you. Make your personal decisions based on what’s
most important to you and what works best for you. You can
ask other people’s opinions as long as you are willing to pay
most attention to your feelings. If you are unsure of yourself,
take the time to really listen to your gut. If you have a relationship
with a Higher Power, spend time in prayer and ask that the truth
be revealed to you.
During my coaching
training, we were taught to listen to our intuition. A lot of
us questioned how we know if we’re right? In other words, how
can we know for sure if we can trust ourselves? You don’t know
for sure unless you test it out. We were instructed as coaches
to blurt out what our intuition was telling us, and then wait
to see how the client responds. The more we test our intuition
and discover that it's telling the truth, the more we begin to
trust ourselves.
So try some
experiments. The next time you feel confused about a decision,
pay attention to your gut- level reaction. Don’t rationalize or
talk yourself out of your feelings. Go with it and see how it
turns out. You can even make a list of times you trust your intuition
and things go well. The more you practice trusting yourself, the
easier it will become. If you trust yourself and find out later
it was a mistake, learn from it and move on. It's okay to be wrong.
It is better to trust yourself and be wrong than to not trust
yourself at all.
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 Lori
Radun, CEC is a certified life coach and founder of True to You
Life Coaching, LLC. Through speaking, personal coaching,
her FREE monthly newsletter, and other coaching products, Lori’s
desire is to offer encouragement and support for moms on their
journey through motherhood. Her mission is to inspire and help
moms reduce stress, focus on what’s important to them, and be
who God designed them to be so they can have the peaceful and
happy family lives they want.
Take our FREE
coaching quiz or call 630-236-7142 for a FREE coaching session
to see if coaching is for you.
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is conducted over the telephone or by email, no client is too
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Have a blessed day!
Lori Radun, CEC True to You Life Coaching, LLC
phone:
(630) 236-7142
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True to You Life Coaching™
Phone: (630) 236-7142 Email: lori@true2youlifecoaching.com |