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| One of the
major stressors moms seems to be facing is money challenges. Here
are some cost cutting options given to me by my great friend
and financial advisor, Thea Reynolds.
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| Sometimes our
loved ones hurt us. Dads can get physical or disappear from our
lives. Moms can betray us with their anger and lack of support.
A best friend can shock us by turning their backs on us. A spouse
can be unfaithful and destroy our trust. Our children can take
a destructive path that is sure to crush our heart. These are
some of the big hurts in life that leave us wondering how we will
ever heal.
But there are
little hurts too that can build into mountains of resentment if
we don’t address them. Angry words are exchanged during an argument.
A friend neglects your friendship. People take you for granted
without even knowing it. Your child rejects you in a moment of
hurt and frustration.
To hang on
to hurt or anger is destructive to our emotional, spiritual, physical
and relational health. It drains our energy, strains our relationships,
and zaps the joy from our life. So how do we heal our heart when
love hurts? Here are some suggestions to help you move beyond
the hurt and get on with enjoying life.
Confront
Your Anger: Our initial reaction when someone hurts or betrays
us is often anger. Maybe we feel violated or disrespected. We
want to perhaps lash back and make the other person hurt. Refrain
from doing that. Anger expressed when we are hurt can be distorted
and damaging to our relationships. Take some time to handle your
anger in another way. Talk with a trusted friend, counselor or
life coach. Express your feelings in a journal or write a letter
to the person who hurt you (but don’t give it to them).
Seek Truth
and Understanding: How can you better understand the person
who hurt you? What truth do you need to know about the other person?
Sometimes people hurt us because they are hurting too. Other times
people hurt us unintentionally. Ask for the truth and be willing
to hear, accept and embrace it. Share your truth and help the
other person understand you.
Search for
the Lesson: Experiencing pain and suffering is not easy. However,
there is usually a lesson to be learned from our pain. What aren’t
or weren’t you paying attention to? What does this experience
teach you about yourself and the other person? What changes need
to be made as a result of your pain? While the human drama includes
pain, we have a choice in how to view it.
Give Grace:
We are all human, and we all make mistakes. Some mistakes are
worse than others, and some mistakes hurt more than others. Most
of us are doing the best we can in any given situation. People
make choices based on their past, their belief systems, and the
past and collective thought of humanity. Unfortunately, people
sometimes make choices that hurt us. We need grace when we make
choices that hurt our loved ones, and our loved ones need grace
as well.
Accept the
Love Deposits: When we are hurt, it is sometimes difficult
to accept the apologies and attempts to make amends from our loved
ones. Maybe your guard has been thrown up and you’re unsure if
you can trust again. One way to heal a wounded heart is to allow
yourself to truly feel the sincere love deposits that are made
to your emotional bank account. Maybe the love will come from
the person who hurt you, but maybe it will not. Seek out and embrace
the love that is being given to you.
Grieve the
Sadness: With hurt comes sadness. Maybe you feel sad about
what happened. Perhaps you feel sad about what you didn’t receive.
Sometimes the sadness is an indication that you need to grieve
the loss of a dream. Allow yourself to feel the sadness – let
the tears flow. Crying is a very cathartic ritual.
Set Appropriate
Boundaries: When our loved ones hurt us continually, we may
need to set boundaries for healing to take place. A child may
need to go to his room when his anger is destructive. You may
need to end a conversation with someone who is hurting you. It’s
even possible that you need to end a relationship that is repeatedly
hurting your self-esteem. Healing cannot take place if we don’t
take care of ourselves. And people will not begin treating us
with respect until we respect ourselves.
Forgive:
Lastly, we need to forgive so that we can move on with life. Forgiving
does not mean that we condone our loved ones behavior. It does
not mean that we allow others to keep hurting us. To forgive means
to give up all resentment and the desire to punish the other person.
In our heart, it means we’ve cancelled the debt we feel others
owe us.
Sometimes the
only way to know love is to experience what love is not. Whatever
the question, challenge or decision, love is always the answer.
God is perfect love, and His desire is for us to model His character.
Healing from hurts moves us closer to love. |
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 Lori
Radun, CEC is a certified life coach and founder of True to You
Life Coaching, LLC. Through speaking, personal coaching,
her FREE monthly newsletter, and other coaching products, Lori’s
desire is to offer encouragement and support for moms on their
journey through motherhood. Her mission is to inspire and help
moms reduce stress, focus on what’s important to them, and be
who God designed them to be so they can have the peaceful and
happy family lives they want.
Take our FREE
coaching quiz or call 630-236-7142 for a FREE coaching session
to see if coaching is for you.
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Have a blessed day!
Lori Radun, CEC True to You Life Coaching, LLC
phone:
(630) 236-7142
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True to You Life Coaching™
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